Okay dating life has been just about down right busy lately. Where did all these guys come from? You've got me. I have no idea. I haven't dated this much since the last time I got dumped (weird right...as soon as I got dumped men came out of the woodwork and dating was CRAZY. There was one week I went on a different date EVERY night of the week.) Back to the present. So I'm in an upswing of dating right now which I can't complain about. No one serious just a lot of fun nice guys. No one I particularly heart or am getting my hopes up for anyways. I've decided to not allow myself to heart anyone for a long time...or at least that is the plan. Just play it cool and have fun - that's my motto.
WELL back to the story. I got asked out by this guy who will remain anonymous. It was a bit of a shock considering I haven't even spoken or seen this guy in about a year. In fact a long time I ago I kind of wanted him to ask me out, but he never did so like I always do - I moved on and forgot all about him. Til one day he calls me up and we're chatting and he very awkwardly says "So you wanna go on a date or what?" I was caught off guard and said yes. He proceeded to explain that he had been trying to work things out with his ex and is finally realizing it's just not going to work so he thought it was time to ask me out. (Strike ONE - no girl wants to be sloppy seconds!). So I start second guessing this date, but I try and push it out of my mind and keep going.
A couple days before THE date he calls me up to finalize everything. He asks how I want to do this. Since we live approximately 30 min apart and we were going out on a week night I said "Would you like me to meet you somewhere so you don't have to drive all the way out to get me?" His reply is, "Well actually, I was wondering if you would come pick me up. See my truck isn't that great and has been acting weird." (Strike TWO - don't ask a girl out and then ask her to drive). I was taken back for a second but said - yeah that's fine. What are we doing? His reply "Well I haven't planned anything I thought I would see what you wanted to do and go with that." (Strike THREE - Don't ask a girl out and then expect her to plan it). I replied - Well honestly it's been so crazy busy for me lately and I've been really stressed so I'm good with anything - I'm very low maintenance and easy going when it comes to dates so whatever you come up with I'll be fine with. He then says "Well I was thinking dinner and a movie, but the thing is I'm broke - so I was wondering if we could do dinner and a movie AT YOUR HOUSE" (Strike FOUR - don't offer up the girl's house as the location of the date - not cool. AND remember it's 30 min at least between our houses so he wants me to drive to pick him up, bring him back, do the event at my house, and then drive him home at the end of the night - in fact let's just throw in a Strike FIVE for that too - AND dinner and a movie at my house? So am I cooking for him and providing a movie...did he just switch roles on me and I'm now the guy for this date? Can we get a Strike SIX for that?) I told him that my house was a no-go. He said his house is "in flux" so I said he needed to come up with something else. We finally agreed on Olive Garden. Great day.
So the day of the date comes. I'm so annoyed by the six strikes that I no longer even want to go, but I already said yes. And so I'm leaving work and getting ready to go pick up my date (no...I did not even put in the effort to go home and freshen up for the date at this point) and my cell phone rings. It is my friend Mikey who I adore (the same Mikey that took me to eat snake). So Mikey calls and asks "What's for dinner?" I asked why and he said that he was in town and wanted to take me to dinner. I explained the situation and he presented me with two options. I could go on a date I'm not looking forward to and he would go to Lucille's by himself OR I could cancel my date and tell him that I was going to dinner with a friend that just got into town and we could have a great night & dinner together.
So I did it. I called my date and canceled. I've never backed out of a date before. But I promise you I had SO much fun with Mikey it was well worth it. We went to Lucille's and totally ate way too much and laughed way too loud. It's always a good time when Mikey is around. So I still got to go on a date this week - I just had much more fun!
So my question is - am I a terrible person for canceling one date for another?
1 comment:
I think you're fine. It sounds like it would have been a pity date in a way.
Had he put time and effort into it than that would have been on the rude side, but in a way it just sounds like he doesn't want to be alone since things aren't gonna work out with his ex and you were an easy choice.
It's good to hear that you're having so much fun dating though.
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